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Lasting Love
Lasting Love
Any romantic relationship has several needs to give it the best chance of being a long, fulfilling and meaningful one.
Trust is one of the most important aspects of any relationship because one without trust will lead to secrets being held and when secrets are revealed, which they always are, they can lead to paranoia or depending on the secret end the relationship. By simply coming out and telling any involved about what would have otherwise been a secret as early as possible, you can avoid a lot of conflict and also prove yourself trustworthy.
Love….love is a very difficult thing to perceive, control and even obtain. I believe that if you are in love with someone (“I love you” is a declaration of platonic love, like love for a friend or family member. Where as “I am in love with you” is a declaration of romantic love….similar but different) nothing can break that bond and you will see the faults of your partner but instead of leaving them over it, you will try to work through it with them. You must understand where you stand in a romantic relationship, is it love (an unexplainable attraction that causes a person to need to be close, to know everything about and to have intimate physical and emotional connections with the person they love). Or is it a really strong friendship (platonic love). It is possible for someone to be sexually attracted to a friend but not to love them, do not make the mistake of misunderstanding your own feelings.
Commitment is pretty strait forward, if you don’t NEED or at very least WISH to spend the rest of your life with someone DO NOT marry them, because after a time you will become bored with them, and if that happens then you are very likely of betraying them.
Testing may be a great way of sussing out just how much your partner loves you. But it is a deal breaker if they find out, or even if they fail the test you will find yourself looking at your relationship in a different light. And once you start testing it is very hard to stop, sometimes you wont even realise your doing it. The most common form of testing is by tempting your partner. (I know of a girl who Tested her partner by getting one of her hot friends to hit on him and see if he brushes the friend off or welcomes the advances). Deal breaker testing comes in the form of severe shock statements, for example: The woman tells her boyfriend that she is pregnant to either force a proposal from him or see if he will ask her to get an abortion or just run. Or the boyfriend tells the girl that he has to leave the state for work and will be away for a year, and see if she wants to go through with a long distance relationship or just give up.
In conclusion, both partners must appreciate each other and everything that they do for each other, they must come to a compromise in their disagreements and must stay faithful. If there is a problem they must approach it and conquer it, hand in hand.
“Love isn’t two people sitting on a beach looking into each other. It consists of two people embraced looking out at the world together in the same direction.”
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